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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/3/2010 6:49:03 PM
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manda59
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Has anyone seen Agapetos lately? I do miss her posts.
hi Melissa,
agapetos is fine: just taking a break from forums at the moment. She and I are in touch every day or every other day - I will let her know you were asking after her.
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Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/11/2010 8:43:21 PM
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Just checking to see how everyone is doing?
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/12/2010 9:50:19 PM
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As for me, Roberta, I am not doing well. I've been dealing with a migraine since Saturday  .
How are you doing, and how is your daughter. YOu've been on my mind alot lately.
Prayers for everyone.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 1:36:30 AM
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Hello, Fellow Crosswalkers:
Today I finally attended an employment support group at a local mental wellness center. Now that I have a car, I can no longer use bus schedules as an excuse not to go. I found out that my state could assist me with returning to the workforce through vocational rehabilitation. That could be a great help, especially in this economy and my OCD and anxiety issues.
I will also see a financial advisor tomorrow (Tuesday) recommended by my church to discuss managing and investing my inheritance.
As wonderful as my new car is, I want to drive as few miles as possible because of the high cost of gasoline here in California. I may be a rich heir, but I still don't have a full time job yet and I have to be a skinflint in order to make my inheritance money last, hence the financial advisor tomorrow.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 1:41:24 AM
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That's great, Rich! I went through a similar program a few years ago, without success. My symptoms returned while working my last job, which lasted only two weeks. 
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 8:53:48 PM
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Hey Everyone, doing ok after the big scare! Feeling a little anxious right now because of certain things, but pray that I continue to put things in God's hands. I mean if He watched over me this weekend then He will surely take take of the smaller stuff!
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Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 9:04:46 PM
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As for me, Roberta, I am not doing well. I've been dealing with a migraine since Saturday .
How are you doing, and how is your daughter. YOu've been on my mind alot lately.
Prayers for everyone.
I'm sorry about the migraine.
I've not been doing well at all. I don't really have anyone to talk to IRL. Most people think that I should be happy about the situation. I don't understand how I should be happy that my unmarried, 17 year old dd is pregnant. I love her and I love the baby, but the only good thing to come out of this is that she didn't even consider abortion. The stress is running very high and I am having a hard time fighting off unwanted feelings and urges. DD is doing fine. She still seems to think this is all a game. She really doesn't get how much being a mom will drastically change her life. I guess no one really understands that until they go through it.
How are you doing? (again, sorry about the migraine.)
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Hello, Fellow Crosswalkers:
Today I finally attended an employment support group at a local mental wellness center. Now that I have a car, I can no longer use bus schedules as an excuse not to go. I found out that my state could assist me with returning to the workforce through vocational rehabilitation. That could be a great help, especially in this economy and my OCD and anxiety issues.
I will also see a financial advisor tomorrow (Tuesday) recommended by my church to discuss managing and investing my inheritance.
As wonderful as my new car is, I want to drive as few miles as possible because of the high cost of gasoline here in California. I may be a rich heir, but I still don't have a full time job yet and I have to be a skinflint in order to make my inheritance money last, hence the financial advisor tomorrow.
Sounds like a great plan!
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That's great, Rich! I went through a similar program a few years ago, without success. My symptoms returned while working my last job, which lasted only two weeks.
People tell me that I should get a job. That maybe working outside the home or just having someplace to go a few days a week would help me. My fear is that my problems will surface while at work and I'll get fired. The thought of getting fired scares me.
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Hey Everyone, doing ok after the big scare! Feeling a little anxious right now because of certain things, but pray that I continue to put things in God's hands. I mean if He watched over me this weekend then He will surely take take of the smaller stuff!
((((Mike)))) a lot of prayers went up for you these last few days. I'm so glad that you went to the hospital. God put you in our lives because we need you. I'm so glad to see you posting again!
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 9:13:24 PM
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People tell me that I should get a job. That maybe working outside the home or just having someplace to go a few days a week would help me. My fear is that my problems will surface while at work and I'll get fired. The thought of getting fired scares me.
How about something voluntary - at a charity, for example? Just say one afternoon a week?
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Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 9:16:59 PM
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DenimDiva
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People tell me that I should get a job. That maybe working outside the home or just having someplace to go a few days a week would help me. My fear is that my problems will surface while at work and I'll get fired. The thought of getting fired scares me.
How about something voluntary - at a charity, for example? Just say one afternoon a week?
Not possible at this point. Maybe down the road it will be.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 9:36:28 PM
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Thanks for asking about me, Roberta. I am doing much better today. I went to the doctor yesterday and was given a shot and a new medication to tryfor the migraine. Today, I am migraine free, Praise God.
I am glad that your dd didn't choose abortion. I can understand that it must also be scary for you. Guess it is the fear of the unknown. Remembering you both in my prayers tonight, Roberta. Sending my love your way...
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Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 10:34:02 PM
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I'm really trying hard not to monopolize this thread again or drag it down in any way. I haven't gotten help for a while now. I don't know how to get help when I'm afraid to leave the yard. I force myself to go somewhere a few times a week. Sometimes I get to where I'm going and I just sit in my truck because I'm scared to go into the business/store. The thought of making phone calls is terrifying, especially when it's to call a friend. I really don't know how to get help when I can not pick up the phone.
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Thanks for asking about me, Roberta. I am doing much better today. I went to the doctor yesterday and was given a shot and a new medication to tryfor the migraine. Today, I am migraine free, Praise God.
That's great!
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 1:36:26 AM
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You're not monopolizing the thread, Roberta. It's okay to post about how you feel about things. Sounds like the first call that you might need to make is to your pdoc and/or therapist. Praying for you, Roberta.
Mike, glad things went well. I've read about your experience in the other thread. Taking care of yourself will improve your mental health, as well as your physical health. Maybe work will get easier to deal with too, as I'm wondering if some of the anxiety that you might have been feeling were due to the relapse of your medical condition.
Iwillseekhim, praying that the migranes will go away. How are you doing tonight?
How is everyone else doing?
I'm not doing well at all. I have lots of anxiety and stress right now and have been having trouble sleeping and eating right. This packing and getting ready to move, not finding a place to live and dealing with family members who make bad jokes about things that I can't mention here. Because of their comments and bad jokes, I'm concerned about my safety and have moved my bed upstairs out of the basement, so I can get out in case something happens.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 4:59:24 AM
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People tell me that I should get a job. That maybe working outside the home or just having someplace to go a few days a week would help me. My fear is that my problems will surface while at work and I'll get fired. The thought of getting fired scares me.
How about something voluntary - at a charity, for example? Just say one afternoon a week?
Not possible at this point. Maybe down the road it will be.
I wasn't talking about now. I was talking about "more likely than a paid job further down the road".
But it wouldn't do any harm to look into possibilities now, for later on.
Are you seeing someone regularly to help you, Roberta? (and I mean a professional) Wasn't that the plan? (or am I remembering wrong?)
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Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 9:14:22 AM
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DenimDiva
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You're not monopolizing the thread, Roberta. It's okay to post about how you feel about things. Sounds like the first call that you might need to make is to your pdoc and/or therapist. Praying for you, Roberta.
I can't bring myself to make the call. Even the thought of making a phone call is overwhelming.
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I'm not doing well at all. I have lots of anxiety and stress right now and have been having trouble sleeping and eating right. This packing and getting ready to move, not finding a place to live and dealing with family members who make bad jokes about things that I can't mention here. Because of their comments and bad jokes, I'm concerned about my safety and have moved my bed upstairs out of the basement, so I can get out in case something happens.
Moving, even under the best of circumstances, is very stressful. I will keep praying for you and your family.
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People tell me that I should get a job. That maybe working outside the home or just having someplace to go a few days a week would help me. My fear is that my problems will surface while at work and I'll get fired. The thought of getting fired scares me.
How about something voluntary - at a charity, for example? Just say one afternoon a week?
Not possible at this point. Maybe down the road it will be.
I wasn't talking about now. I was talking about "more likely than a paid job further down the road".
But it wouldn't do any harm to look into possibilities now, for later on.
Someday perhaps.
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Are you seeing someone regularly to help you, Roberta? (and I mean a professional) Wasn't that the plan? (or am I remembering wrong?)
I haven't seen anyone recently. That would require making a phone call.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 9:30:01 AM
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I haven't seen anyone recently. That would require making a phone call.
Well you have a choice. You can continue suffering on your own, or you can force yourself to make the phone call. Or, you could ask your daughter or a friend from church (or Tom if he's home) to make the call for you. Or you could write to them, and either post it, or get your daughter to drop it in to the office, and ask them to call you. Or, another suggestion, have you checked to see if they have email? Because then you could email them.
What are you afraid will happen if you make a phone call?
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 11:32:07 AM
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That's not going to happen. You're talking about two people who want absolutely nothing to do with anything mental health related. If I had witnessed a loved one go through what I have been going through due largely to mental health medications, I wouldn't want anything to do with it either.
Roberta, are you sure you're not judging them based on your own feelings about yourself? Your daughter has another scan on the 5th May - if she wants you to come with her to that, then she may well be willing to help you do something to be well enough on that day.
Besides, mightn't you just be seeing the therapist to talk to - not necessarily be given any medication?
Maybe just talking could be what you need right now, if you have no-one there you feel you can talk to.
Alternatively, how about emailing a church friend to come over to your place and make the call for you, with you sitting there.
Could it be that you are worried about the "other" possible diagnosis that your pdoc wanted to investigate before, that you mentioned on here?
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 11:36:11 AM
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I've not been doing well at all. I don't really have anyone to talk to IRL. Most people think that I should be happy about the situation. I don't understand how I should be happy that my unmarried, 17 year old dd is pregnant. I love her and I love the baby, but the only good thing to come out of this is that she didn't even consider abortion. The stress is running very high and I am having a hard time fighting off unwanted feelings and urges. DD is doing fine. She still seems to think this is all a game. She really doesn't get how much being a mom will drastically change her life. I guess no one really understands that until they go through it.
pink,
Thanks for your comments about my financial planning. The financial advisor recommended something called "laddering CD's", putting my money into concurrent CD accounts that mature one month at a time so that I have liquidity and ready access while still locking it up to collect interest without penalties.
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter not taking her pregnancy seriously. I have a younger sister who also got pregnant as a teenager (age 15) and kept the baby, and my mom went through the same emotional upheaval you're experiencing right now. After my nephew was born and my sister brought him home, she told me that she began having strange feelings she never felt before... the mothering instinct and the bond with her newborn son. She also had to drop out of her high school because of the maternity issue.
But the good news is she transferred to an alternative high school, graduated on time, had a two-year-old son cheering Mommy on when she got her diploma, and today is a department manager for a local Walmart. My nephew is now 10 years old, is doing well in school, has a love of dinosaurs, and has a little brother he loves to death. My sister ultimately had a good head on her shoulders.
My sister's experience doesn't necessarily mean your daughter will have a similar happy ending, though. My sis accepted she made a big mistake, took responsibility for it and learned to be a good mother to her sons. I pray that your dear daughter will ultimately do the same.
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Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 6:26:28 PM
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That's not going to happen. You're talking about two people who want absolutely nothing to do with anything mental health related. If I had witnessed a loved one go through what I have been going through due largely to mental health medications, I wouldn't want anything to do with it either.
Roberta, are you sure you're not judging them based on your own feelings about yourself? Your daughter has another scan on the 5th May - if she wants you to come with her to that, then she may well be willing to help you do something to be well enough on that day.
She doesn't drive. I either have to go with her or arrange for someone to drive her to the dr. I'm not willing to barter with her in regards to the health of the baby.
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Besides, mightn't you just be seeing the therapist to talk to - not necessarily be given any medication?
Maybe just talking could be what you need right now, if you have no-one there you feel you can talk to.
I've thought about it. That is why I wrote him the letter when I sent off the bill. I'm just not able to make a phone call to him or anyone right now. Although, if I go back to therapy, insurance will not cover very much of it at all. I hate the meds, I hate the side-effects, the withdrawals, etc. I have no plans to go back on them at all. Insurance will "strongly encourage" that I do go back on them. I realize that meds are helpful for some people and that's great. However, that hasn't been my story.
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Alternatively, how about emailing a church friend to come over to your place and make the call for you, with you sitting there.
It sounds like a good idea, but, in all honesty, I have been so mean to people IRL lately that I couldn't even tell you who is and isn't still on speaking terms with me.
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Could it be that you are worried about the "other" possible diagnosis that your pdoc wanted to investigate before, that you mentioned on here?
I think it's too late in life for that dx.
Richard, thank you for sharing about your sister.
Mike, if you feel that you should get a second opinion medically, then I think you should get one. I don't think a second opinion really hurts ever.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 6:29:55 PM
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Hi Roberta and Everyone!
Roberta, I guess this second opinion actually more or less already happened. I have already been declared stable, but guess I could just use a little more help. With everything else that is going on in my life right now its kinda complicated.
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Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 6:33:29 PM
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Hi Roberta and Everyone!
Roberta, I guess this second opinion actually more or less already happened. I have already been declared stable, but guess I could just use a little more help. With everything else that is going on in my life right now its kinda complicated.
Are you talking stability in regards to physical or mental health or both? Was it two different doctors in the same field?
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 4/14/2010 6:38:39 PM
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Hi Roberta and Everyone!
Roberta, I guess this second opinion actually more or less already happened. I have already been declared stable, but guess I could just use a little more help. With everything else that is going on in my life right now its kinda complicated.
Are you talking stability in regards to physical or mental health or both? Was it two different doctors in the same field?
This would have been on the MH front. Kinda got into an argument because my Dr. knew I wasn't taken my meds but didn't do anything about it, but now it was suddenly this urgent matter that I wasn't doing it. Maybe I am not allowed to talk about this and confidentiality does come into play.
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