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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 10:09:33 AM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Because it is ok to be upset about the change in plans and it's normal. It's ok to take time to grieve the plans that you had and to be upset about the added recovery time.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 12:23:29 PM
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sharonjef2007
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Ok ladies who have had c-sections....6 hours after the birth, were you up and around yet?
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However, isn't also nice to know that those feelings will pass?
Not when it is just the pat answer people like to give in those situations. Kind of like when someone dies and people don't know what to say, so they ask you "how are you doing?" You know, I always wanted to say "how do you THINK I'm doing????" I'd rather have a hug and no words at all.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 2:01:54 PM
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I can't remember exactly....it may have been more like 8 hours, but it was definitely the first day (and my C was at 1 pm) that the nurses made me get up and around. It's not easy the first couple days.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 2:17:15 PM
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And, I'm soooooooooooo tired of hearing about "how" he enters the world is not as important as the fact that he will be here and healthy. "Oh Sharon, you will forget all about all that other stuff once you hold him." Just not what I want to hear right now.
{{{Sharon}}}
Although I did end up with natural births, that was one of the things some people (medical people, mostly) used to try to badger me into doing things their way.  I know it's not as drastic as what you're going to go through, but my first birth was not "all-natural" and it was pretty darn miserable once I got to the hospital. There were some things done that *did* matter, and I wish hadn't happened, and I've actively avoided since, but when I got that baby in my arms, the misery went way, way into the background. And 6 years later, the icky parts of his birth really aren't even part of my consciousness, unless it happens to come up in a convo about birth.
It is normal and OK and fine for you to have all these feelings. The "how" is important on some level, and we were built to do things a certain way, and our brains are wired a certain way, and when things don't happen that way, it can cause issues, physically or emotionally or both. It is really not fair to invalidate a woman's feelings and make her feel guilty for being upset about the "how" of birth. But it is true that there are things more important than how the baby is born, such as the health and safety of the baby or mom or both. That is ultimately the most important thing. But it doesn't make the punch in the gut you've just recieved hurt any less. You don't have to be happy about the specifics of the way things turned out. But I know that when you do have that sweet baby in your arms finally, how he got here won't matter quite as much. 
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 3:37:30 PM
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I can answer #6 I SOO Wished I would have had my boppy there. Their pillows are fine and dandy but weren't what I used at home. Our latch issues could have been a bit easier to handle if I had had the boppy.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 4:26:54 PM
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Ok...the questions just keep coming to my brain. Sorry for asking so much, but honestly I overlooked all the c-section stuff and now I'm playing catch up.
1. I prefer to NOT have narcotic meds if I can get away with it. Has anyone else gone that route?
2. For those who were up and around a few hours later, did you have an epi or a spinal?
3. How long did you have the urinary catater in?
4. How did your birth plan change? What did you include in it? I just want to make sure I'm not forgetting anything as I redo mine.
5. Is there anything extra you wish you would have taken to the hospital due to the c-section?
6. Would you suggest that I bring my boppy pillow or just use hospital pillows to help sheild the incision and help with breastfeeding?
I think 6 questions is enough for now  
1. I didn't even question what they gave me...I know they gave me morphine, and apart from making me feel like my bed was floating, it meant that ds didn't wake up til the afternoons for his feeds for the first few days. He fed all night, then slept til after lunch. When I realised it was the morphine doing it, I stopped letting them give me it.
2. I wasn't 'up and about' as such, as in buzzing around the place, but I did get up to make a trip to the bathroom, and before that I got out of the bed to sit in the chair next to the bed (still with catheter etc in place).
ETA: I had a spinal.
3. As far as I remember the catheter was removed once I got enough feeling back in my legs to be able to walk/hobble unaided. I had the c/s around 2pm, and the catheter was out by the evening.
4. My birth plan changed in that it was totally scrapped, being an emergency situation.
5. No, I'd been in the hospital for five days prior to the planned induction, and dh had already brought me my laptop, books, dvds etc, and because he had someone working for him at the time, he took the time off and spent the most part of each day in the hospital with me to keep me company.
6. The boppy sounds like a good idea. I breastfed lying on my side at night, because the nurse the first night decided ds should sleep in bed with me, and it worked so well that I carried on with that. So all I had to manage to do was turn over from one side to the other for the next feed, which I could do without having to call anyone for help. In the day I had dh to help me sit up in bed so I could feed like that. After a day or two I could manage that by myself too, but definitely a boppy would've helped me in that it would have made sitting up to feed him a lot more comfortable. It wouldn't have shielded the incision as he wasn't anywhere near it when feeding, just would have made me more comfortable to have a nice cushion to rest my arm on whilst feeding.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 4:31:02 PM
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ORIGINAL: sharonjef2007
Ok ladies who have had c-sections....6 hours after the birth, were you up and around yet?
I was up and around in the sense that I'd gotten out of bed (with the help of dh) and made it to the bathroom unaided, and in the sense that I sat in the chair next to the bed for a while. But that was it until the next day.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 5:02:26 PM
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A planned C really is quite calm. We started at 7:30am and were in my room by 8:30ish. I saw the baby pretty much immediately. They cleaned him up right beside me. It was weird, I "felt" the tugging but not really. I know that makes no sense. There was definately no pain.
The second time around I took so much less to the hospital. My first idea of a birth plan was scrapped because of the emergency c but the second time around I didn't even bother. I trusted my doctor, my husband knew me and what I wanted in case I was incapacitated, and I was always clear and coherent. I just sort of went with the flow. That decision made me much more calm. Stepping away from all the advice books really helped. I think my attitude made the second experience that much better. I did what I could and trusted God with the rest.
I was cleared to drive after my two week incision check. I went back to working out, not just walking, by 6 weeks. I was running by 10. But I always listened to my body and just quit if I needed to. For me working out kept me sane. It was a healthy way to relieve stress. My newborns were difficult so I needed it. It also gave me some much needed time to myself.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 5:34:12 PM
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The one big thing I tell anyone having a C to pack for the hospital (and I've seen Manda tell everyone this as well!) is "granny panties" and really loose pants, like sweatpants or whatever. You do not want anything pressing on that incision at all.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 6:20:13 PM
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Krislynx
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I have to be quick, but I'll try to answer better later. Up in no more than 6 hours, walked the halls once. Everything but the IV out in delivery room, can't remember IV but by the time I was up it was just the hep lock.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 6:20:16 PM
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sharonjef2007
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The big thing I'm concerned about is missing out on some of the baby's firsts because of not being able to get up and out of bed. For example, about 6ish hours after the birth, baby goes to the nursery for his first bath, Vitamin K shot and that kind of stuff. I was soooooooo looking forward to being there for that and I'm not sure I'll be able to be there for it. I suppose there is a chance that they may go ahead and do that in our room. But part of that will have to do with how many other babies are there at the moment and if they can spare a nurse to come to the room at that time. That is also why, if possible, I want to stay away from narcotic pain killers. I don't want to sleep or feel drugged once we are up in the maternity room.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 6:47:00 PM
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sharonjef2007
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He will be circumcised before he leaves the hospital, so yeah. We get to opt for or against the Hep B deal. We aren't going to do that one though.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 8:13:13 PM
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Brandy
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Sharon, they can do all of that in the room if you ask them to. You may have to ask a little more than nicely.
We declined all the in hosp shots and they were great about it.
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RE: Do we need an UNNatural childbirth support and disc... - 10/21/2009 8:15:53 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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And, if they won't do it in the room then just have them wait until you CAN get up. Nothing bad is going to happen if the baby doesn't have a bath for 12(or even 48) hours instead of just 6 hours. I know women who don't bathe their babies at all in the hospital.
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